6 August 2021
In my work as an Executive Coach, very often the coaching conversation went by in a fleeting moment. Since I was fully present and focus on listening to what the Coachee shared, very often I don’t remember the questions I asked and the stories I shared.
This morning, there was an opportunity for my Coachee to reflect on her seven months coaching journey. It was her defining moments and mine too.
This is what she discovered, learnt and decided to implement, And this is what I am learning too.
Spend Time to Save Time: She relates a story about a direct report who was new to the job and always sends in questions expecting a response. My coachee used the coaching approach, asked her to not just bring the problem, but also share the background & come up with some possible solutions. In that way, my coachee will have to spend time with her walking through the possible solutions and empowering her direct report to decide on the solution. This takes time but eventually saves lots of time as her direct report no longer comes to her on small issues.
Prepare Mindset & Emotions. Slow Down & Be Patient: She felt that in the office, she’s always rushing, not enough time to have a good conversation. She decided to adopt a different strategy. Share key points ahead, let them think first, then allocate time for these important conversations.
I Am Not Better Than Others: As a Leader, I’m more exposed to coaching & mentoring skills. Even then, I may not have all the answers for you but I’ll listen to you, ask questions, share experiences & unlock potential together
Meeting for the first time. The 1st Session: See this as a Session to get to know each other, learn from the person, ask “what do you want?”. It’s the Coachee’s Agenda. Find out their expectations of me. Something good will happen.
Put Myself In People’s Shoes. Show Empathy: Learn from the journey. I may not fully understand the situation, so ask them what they think, analyse what they see.
Important to Provide a Safe Place: A safe platform, a place where people feel comfortable to share, not judged or penalize for saying things that contradicts
And what has she noticed about changes in herself?
Heightened Self awareness. Understand more how people see me.
Practice to pause & listen. The results? Get to hear more
Leadership is a privilege. Get comfortable to be questioned.
Connections & Relationships are important. Build them
Talk less, ask more, listen more
Learn how not to take things personally
In a nutshell, I’m mighty proud of my Coachee. She has the humility to learn from her direct reports & peers, the courage to be aware of her limitations & to change & the discipline to take action.
And for that I’m grateful to be her Coach. Validated as an Executive Coach. And, most important of all, coaching works!
That’s why I do what I do.
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