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We do not see things as they are. We see things as We Are.

Our perspective matters, doesn’t it? How we perceive defines the context and frame of our world. We literally live in the frame of our world as though the frame is like a bubble that we live in.

So how do you see your world? What is your default mode? Is it responsive or reactive? Is it positive or negative? Is it short term or long term? Is it all about self or about others?

Often the stories we tell ourselves and others reflects how we see the world. We often emphasize part of the story to project confidence or accomplishment and even omit part of the story that brings shame and embarrassment. We truly believe in our own interpretation of a given situation or experience.

“This must the truth” one says. Many times, it is only one limited perspective of the situation or experience. Often in that given situation, being in the story, we are entangled emotionally in the situation that renders objective perspective.

We are also only capable to “see only as we are”. Our lenses are defined by who we are. We often project our self-image state into our situations.

For instance, when we are guided by fear, we noticed and are framed by the fear of what could go wrong in that situation. We walked in the direction of our subconscious belief. It is therefore important for us know our true self. We may need to examine our natural “lenses.” What is our natural perspective when we are faced with challenges, uncertainties, unknown paths, etc? What does it say of our inner state? Does it reflect limiting belief of fear?, doubt of self-ability?
How would life be like when we go beyond our limited perspective?

May I suggest the need of an assistance of a coach to co-create perspectives. A coach is someone who hears your story and elevate our perspective.

Here are some perspective one can benefit from a coach support:

1) Big picture perspective
A coach is able to elevate one from a scenario to a broader perspective of what matters for the person. This involves in moving one from narrow vision to broader vision. Some questions to aid us would be “what is the bigger perspective of this and what does it mean to you?”

2) Deeper perspective
We often rush into making decisions and responding to situations don’t we? During coaching session, we are called to reflect on our experience and how we interpret the situation, and to think deeper on what would be the best response that is line with our true self. Some questions to aid us would be “what is the most important in this situation?”

3) Reframing perspective
When we feel stuck, we need a different perspective don’t we? Albert Einstein once said “we cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” We need a different perspective to tackle an issue. The same approach often leads to same results. So we need to reframe our perspective. Some questions to aid us would be “What are opportunities you see in this?”

4) Self-discovery perspective
Regardless of our age, there’s a lot about us which we need to discover. Having self-awareness helps us see ourself in action and observing ourself from a third person viewpoint. A coach leads us to look at those perspective. “Aha” moments are often insights gain from observing ourself, bringing unconscious to our consciousness. Having this insight, we can then choose and empowered to response more appropriately, and with more wisdom.

I would like to end with encouraging you to examine your perspective and getting a support of a coach to partner with you to co-create perspective.

ICF Malaysia Coach Michael Kim

This article is written by Michael Kim, ACC.

Michael is highly passionate about mindfulness and self-reflection. He is a Certified Professional Trainer and currently holds the position as the Honorary Secretary of ICF Malaysia.