Part 3 – Accepting my imperfections
I had a total of six coaching sessions with Jeff from May 2017 to October 2017.
What I really liked about Jeff was that he did not limit the coaching sessions to just the six face-to-face meetings. In between our sessions, Jeff shared a lot of inspiring and motivational videos and articles. Two of these really had an impact on me:
The power of vulnerability by Brene Brown
In this TEDx Talk Brene Brown talked about what separates people who have a strong sense of love and belonging from those who don’t : they BELIEVE they are worthy of love and belonging. That’s it!
- They had the courage to be imperfect.
- They had the compassion to be kind to themselves.
- They had authenticity – they were willing to let go of who they thought they should be in order to be who they were
- They fully embraced vulnerability, they were willing to do something where there were no guarantees
She invites us to be seen deeply and vulnerably and to love wholeheartedly even though there are no guarantees. She invites us to shift our perception and to believe we are enough.
I loved it, it made me realize it was okay to be imperfect. By accepting my imperfections I become strong.
I applied this awareness in my journey as a Conference Director. I understood now that I cannot do everything on my own.
Some areas where I was not so strong in, I could rely on the Deputy Director or the Team Leaders to help. It was not a sign of weakness to ask for help. By letting other people to help me, I was able to focus better on the tasks that I am good at and overall our team became more effective.
The other article I liked was:
Your words are powerful: 8 positive speaking habits to build yourself up by Margie Warrell.
What I got from this article was:
- The words you use hold immense power.
- The world mirrors yourself back to you
- Your language impacts how others perceive and relate to you
- Realizing just how capable you truly are begins the moment you decide to use words that embolden you
As I grew up, I was used to putting myself down. I did not believe I could achieve certain thing until I actually achieved it. I have always labelled myself with negative adjectives and have taken feedback as criticism. Hence this article really helped to change my perspective.
With the six face-to-face sessions and his sharing of great articles and videos, Jeff helped me in my journey to be a leader. He helped create awareness in me and to develop myself. I tended to overthink and magnify issues. Through coaching I was able to take a different perspective. I learned how to embrace myself and express myself positively. Coaching empowered me to achieve more than I thought I could.
For all of you out there who are looking to make changes in your life, I encourage you to embrace your insecurities and imperfections, take that plunge and enjoy the journey. You may wish to take this journey with a coach, who could help you get to where you want to go faster and help you discover your potential.